-Inspired from too many Tumblr posts. Disclaimer: A little on the mushy side but I like to expand my Horizons on what I write about, you never know who’s spirit could be slightly brushed by a few combinations of your 26 letters.

I think first and foremost every woman wants to feel appreciated.

We want to know that there’s someone out there that see’s us. But I suppose what needs to be realized is that this vision doesn’t come immediately, or suddenly—actually, who am I to say this when for all I know it can—but this vision will more so come gradually, with patience and with time. So I’m going to say something that you probably hear all the time, don’t want to hear, and can already predict. It is to stop searching for love. Put down your magnifying glass, hang up the running sneakers, and instead just relax, cool out.

Isn’t something so much truer sincere and genuine when it just comes to you. When it just appears, when realization dawns on you, isn’t that better?

Go out on dates, meet new people good people that mean you well. Make friendships and bonds. And don’t use this as a regime or a way to find love. Just let life happen and know not to force anything. Stop searching for a point in every interaction with every person you meet. Some people God sends your way just to pass by, and possibly give you wisdom acquired through mistakes.

I understand that you’re a wistful lover, yearning for someone to reaffirm what you see in yourself, and possibly even more. But this type of mentality will bring you nothing but a cycle of disappointment. So stop telling yourself disappointment is normal and essential if you keep coming across the same disappointment and learning the same lesson over and over. Take heed instead, and make a change.

So then I ask of you to consider this. They say when its real you know its real—I am speaking of the L word here. But consider that you actually don’t know at first and you are not sure, instead this reality that it is real dawns on you gradually and you are proven right. So that only then in hindsight you can look back and say to the longingly starry-eyed onlookers, “when it’s real you know its real”. In this present we are given, you can not know anything for sure and you can not predict the future, what you can do is look back and realize that what you actually did was think… and those thoughts with time became reality, they became confirmed. And of course there’s the possibility they are not confirmed, and what you thought was real. was not.